Love or infatuation?

I've made numerous mistakes in the past. Each relationship is so real but yet failed. I start to wonder whether the problem is with me or her or the blame WORLD..ehhe...I understand the fundamentals to love someone but yet my life doesn't reflect that because I portrayed myself as someone who does not give enough sense of security to a girl. I can't write down what happen 8 to 9 years ago in one posting but I am glad that God is always there for me and I thank Him because he showed me what went wrong and I have successfully tackled issues I've swept under the carpet. That was a superb feeling. As I'm trying to find out whether do I really understand what love is..I came across a quote: There is no failure where love is concerned. To be unsuccessful is not the same a failure. Our disappointment is more likely to provide an opportunity to learn and to grow. If we don’t risk loving, we will never fail in love. But much worse, we will also never experience its wonder. Those who try to do something and fail are infinitely better off than those who try to do nothing and succeed. We seem to gain wisdom more readily through our failures than through our successes. We always think of failure as the antithesis of success, but it isn’t. Success often lies just the other side of failure. As long as we continue to seek love, some failure is bound to occur. But hurt is a strong impetus for action. When we seek to find the causes of our failures, we always emerge wiser. We gain new alternatives for our old behaviors and acquire new resources for future encounters. This is certainly not failure. Rather, it is the way that produces lasting change. It is the way of insight and growth. It is the way of love. Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows-one day at a time. Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream. Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you-to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him nearer. But near of far, you know he is yours and you can wait. Infatuation says, “We must get married right away. I can’t risk losing him.” Love says, “Be patient. Don’t panic. Plan your future with confidence.” Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you will admit it is difficult to be in one another’s company unless you are sure it will end in intimacy. Love is the maturity of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers. Infatuation lacks confidence. When he’s away, you wonder if he’s cheating. Sometimes you check. Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels that trust, and it makes him even more trustworthy. Infatuation might lead you to do things you’ll regret later but love never will. Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before.